This is NOT a Wedding Report
As I sit in front of my computer screen, hazy from the weight of the wedding sugar cookies and endless glasses of whatever alcoholic drink people brought to me, I can honestly say, that Andy and Kim's was the best wedding.....ever!
I write to you not to share a blow-by-blow accounting of the craziness and happiness that surrounded this particular wedding, but to tell you that as a parent, it is so worth it to get involved in the plans and the chaos of your children's wedding.
I have been an empty nest Mom for three years now. There are good days and there are devastating days. And no matter what kind of day who are having, they are always EMPTY of your children. Of course, this can be considered a good thing, depending on the child and your unique relationship with that child. I am lucky to have great relationships with all three children at the moment. I can honestly tell you that I miss them every single day. I don't cry everyday, but the lump in my throat occurs at least once every single day that goes by without them living under the same roof anymore.
Getting involved in a child's wedding does have it's negatives: you'll end up spending $$$ and you may end up in an argument about some ridiculous ritual or activity. So what, everyone's human. It's what life's all about. In the end, everyone grows and becomes closer, just as long as everyone gives in at some point. While my husband might disagree, the money you spend is worth every penny.
Another negative is when the big event is all over and the last favor or tux has been returned, you can hit a new low. I think that is where I am now.
I am happy that the kids allowed me to wallow in the details of their special occasion. I do not feel at all empty; in fact, I feel filled to the brim with happy emotions. I am tired to the bone. I am blessed with a wonderful family, no matter where they now reside. Thank you Andy and Kim and to Jonathan and Laura! You all are the best and I hope your lives are filled with joy and laughter.