The 4:00 pm Date Phone Call
The Scene: Saturday afternoon, 4:00 pm
Bill: Hi Beth.
Beth: Hi, how's work going?
Bill: I'm just finishing up and wondering what you are doing.
Beth: I'm on the computer and the dog is sleeping.
Bill: Is there anything you want to do tonight?
Beth: Hmm.............
At this point my answers fall into 3 separate but similar suggestions which almost always get the same response from Bill. Sometimes, I throw in a doozy like, "let's dressed up and go clubbing!" for which there is silence on the other end of the phone, so that doesn't count.
Our choices are: Go out to dinner somewhere;
Exercise, get food, grill out and watch TV (movie or sports)
Go to the Movies (pretty rare, though)
WOW. Sounds fun. Can we fall into such a rut so easily?
When I was younger, I used to complain or plan our lives so that we would already have plans to attend a function or meet friends somewhere but wait to tell Bill when he called and asked me at 4 pm on Saturday afternoon. Imagine this...but Bill didn't appreciate this which sent the rest of the weekend on a sour note. (How he ever dealt with me, I'll never know).
Now, to be honest, I kind of don't mind the laziness of our Saturday evenings. We've kind of settled into this routine and now it's pretty darn hard to get ourselves out. It probably just a phase that has lasted for about 6 years now. I think it just seems different now because of the empty nest situation. Have you gotten yourselves in a rut you'd like to share with me so I don't feel like such a recluse loser? (Feel free to make something up if you're running out the door to some wonderful party!)
Bill: Hi Beth.
Beth: Hi, how's work going?
Bill: I'm just finishing up and wondering what you are doing.
Beth: I'm on the computer and the dog is sleeping.
Bill: Is there anything you want to do tonight?
Beth: Hmm.............
At this point my answers fall into 3 separate but similar suggestions which almost always get the same response from Bill. Sometimes, I throw in a doozy like, "let's dressed up and go clubbing!" for which there is silence on the other end of the phone, so that doesn't count.
Our choices are: Go out to dinner somewhere;
Exercise, get food, grill out and watch TV (movie or sports)
Go to the Movies (pretty rare, though)
WOW. Sounds fun. Can we fall into such a rut so easily?
When I was younger, I used to complain or plan our lives so that we would already have plans to attend a function or meet friends somewhere but wait to tell Bill when he called and asked me at 4 pm on Saturday afternoon. Imagine this...but Bill didn't appreciate this which sent the rest of the weekend on a sour note. (How he ever dealt with me, I'll never know).
Now, to be honest, I kind of don't mind the laziness of our Saturday evenings. We've kind of settled into this routine and now it's pretty darn hard to get ourselves out. It probably just a phase that has lasted for about 6 years now. I think it just seems different now because of the empty nest situation. Have you gotten yourselves in a rut you'd like to share with me so I don't feel like such a recluse loser? (Feel free to make something up if you're running out the door to some wonderful party!)
Labels: empty nest Mom, ruts
posted by beth at
6:44 PM
Emtnester
4 Comments:
Ha, I hope you chose exercise? As the HASAY sponsor, I have to suggest this at every opportunity.
Yes, we are so lame that we got a sitter tonight (My SIL is still here) and went to dinner. We couldn't make it home before 9:30. Usually we both sit on the couch (me with my laptop) and barely talk while I catch up on my reader. Then we go to sleep and I turn into Mrs. Chatterbox wanting to talk about everything under the sun and we stay up way too late and the kids are up way too early.
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Beth to :
Casey: I did choose the exercise choice. Thanks for pushing!
Anonymous: You said, "comment?" REALLY?!*!
Well, beth don't feel too bad- my kids are still at home and we have gotten into the same rut. Sometimes I think to myself " I'd like to go out and 'do something' " but that usually means crowded places and long lines which is a deal killer for everyone in our house. So, our weekends go like this: workout, kids games, grocery, grill out and watch movies. OMG. . . how boring, yet we all sem to enjoy it for the most part - for now
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