Sex in a Blog Post

Day 3

Ask the question, "should you write about sex on a 'PG-rated' personal blog?" and you will get as many answers as there are sexual positions (4.....right?!).  I, personally have been asked this question many times at seminars and network events and for me the answer really, "it depends"................

Let's first start with some deep, philosophical questions:

Why do you have a personal blog in the first place? 

          Are you story telling or are you writing your life's journal and do you care that the journal is truthful?  If you have taken the diary approach, have you established the subjects and limits you plan to share with the rest of the world? Once I determined what was "off-limits" (yes, believe it or not, I have at least 3 things in my life that I will never write about on my blog!), I found it liberating to write about all the other subjects.  I tend to take the honest approach and really tell-it-like-it-is because it just doesn't feel right otherwise. I do not want to be deceptive....to myself or to my readers.

Does sex play an important role in your real life or do prefer to place everything about sex on the back shelf of your kitchen pantry..........where you might not see or taste it for years to come?

          If sex is an important part of how you define yourself, then it probably has a place in your writing topics.  My only advice is to remember that ANYONE can read your blog, including your children, your boss, your Mother-in-Law and that creepy neighbor down the street!  Be prepared to possibly have an embarrassing moment or two.

         If sex is hidden in the pantry, I would suggest leaving it there until you are ready to come out of the pantry, so to speak!  It could be a liberating or a debilitating experience; I don't want to take any responsibility for the direction you may choose to take. 

Is the subject of sex an appropriate topic for your blog niche?  Will it increase or decrease your following?

           I once told a story about my volunteer days as a candy stripper back in my high school days.  I joked about the uncomfortable uniform and showed examples of how they have changed for the better.  Well, my readership for that particular day spiked tenfold.  At first I was quite excited but really, the readers who probably Googled 'High School Candy Stripers' and landed on my site, were probably there for a total of 6 seconds once they realized my blog was not one of "those kinds of sites"! I am pretty sure none of them came back the next day, either!  (Too bad....they could have learned all about insomnia!)

          There could easily be an argument that almost every blog niche could use a little sex topic now and then.  The important thing to remember is to write about sex as it relates to your niche.  As an empty nest parent, the sex topic is usually a humorous one.  At this age, we have learned to poke fun at a lot of once-taboo topics!  

So there, as promised.....a sexy little post about SEX.  See you tomorrow!

         

My Weekend with Mary Anne at The Stiletto Mom

On Saturday morning, I woke up, made coffee and selected one blog to read from "cover to cover" so to speak. Starting from the first post until the last post, I stalked this one blog for the entire weekend. I have to say that this is a really fun exercise and I think I will continue to do it again and again each week. I really had such a hard time choosing who I wanted to stalk.

Since I've decided to do this again, I choose Mary Anne's The Stiletto Mom. This is an obvious choice for me for several reasons. First, she is the first person who reached out to me on an email and told me a few things about commenting and getting more traffic/readers to my site. Second, she added me to her blogroll and I think this was the first person to do so. Third, her blogroll introduced me to some of my very favorite sites, like Steenky Bee and i am bossy. Finally, I entered her Oy Vey contest and actually won (see her Sept 22nd post) a $25 gift card, making this my "first paycheck" for the blog.

I have no idea how I found her in the first place, though. Maybe I just liked the name as I really adore shoes (that's one wall in my closet).

The big shocker: She started writing on on her blog on August 1st, which is exactly when I started. She seems so much more "in the know" than me with the blog world. And it's probably a good thing that I started this single blog stalking with someone relatively new as it actually takes a long time to read each post. I started reading with wine around noon on Saturday and when I was done reading, I had quite a nice little buzz going!

My Favorite Post(s): Okay, I narrowed it down to 4 posts:

1) Sept 2nd: Mary Ann observes a crazy family in a Sushi restaurant, where she hears the Dad say to the kids, "Here's the deal, if we go to a restaurant and you don't like it, STARVE". Very funny story unfolds....

2) Oct 14th: Mary Ann has potty training memories where she tells her son that "The Poo-Poo's have hands" and The Man (her hubby) can't believe this is what's she's telling her son. Brought back many PT memories of my own.

3) Oct 8th: Best Post Pictures! Mankinis in Cabo...need I say more. But my favorite part was how her friends were helping her to get the pictures discreetly (and there's some danger involved, too).

4) Sept 7th: This is the post that when I first read it, I laughed so hard and immediately added her blog to 'My Favorites' list: Mary Ann and The Man were having a difference of opinion about her trash can being left out in the open, so she decides to decorate the can with various themes. My favorite was the 'library look'.

Final Thoughts: I think it's amazing that Mary Anne can work full time have 2 children and write consistently on her blog at the same time. Kuddos on being the Super Mom. I like the way she constantly is upset with Google and the ads they have placed on her site. I totally agree with her about waiting for Christmas decorations going up everywhere before Halloween and Thanksgiving! This is a fun blog to read, so head on over there right now and find your own favorite posts!